Placing my mind in the right frame you listen intently to what is being said to you, and as you listen you realize that there is more to the conversation that the person wants to get across to you. The person is looking for approval for his or her actions. I then question myself why would this person need this approval from me. I do not control his life, I am not responsible for his actions? As the person talks more and more you realize that what they have done is wrong and that there is no way you can agree with them. The talking continues and the facts come out. At that time they also realize it and now must compound the story with something to offset why they chose to make the decision they did.
Why not tell me that they made a decision which in the long run they feel was a mistake? Why not tell me that they know that they made a mistake? Why not say I am was wrong? No that would be too easy. I found out that when I am wrong I must face the consequences of my actions and decisions. In doing so I can put out the blazing fires that are coming against me. Every time I am wrong as soon as I see my mistake I make it a priority to go and change or make it right with whomever I have wronged! I do not blame anyone else for my mistakes or actions.
I listen when someone needs to talk and a lot of the times I come away with more knowledge than when I first started the conversation. I then must also learn to apply what I have learned to everyday life.
God Bless,
N4KMA